In my experience you teach the first child manners.
You teach them how to sign please before they can speak it. By the time they talk they ask for things with complete sentences and when they tell stories, (so many stories) it is done in a fairly normal, if excited, speaking voice.
The second child you try. But the first child is “helping” by making up pretend signs that change minute to minute so the sign language thing never really catches on. And your hands are so full with the first child’s polite, but attention seeking stories, that so long as the second child says what they want instead of sitting and wailing until you figure it out, you no longer care exactly how the information is presented.
The third child, the third child is loud.
As the first child continues to jabber on night and day, the second continues with her demands and the third is left with only one option -loud.
Polite, but loud.
Full sentences, at top volume.
Stories, just as many stories as that first child, but louder ones.
Songs, all sung at top volume.
(Yes, I know the video is sideways, please tell me if you know how to fix it!)
And you try, you really try to pay attention to them when they ask for something the first time, when it might be in a nice normal voice. But, you are the mother of three and, inevitably, you miss it. The over shadowed and ignored third child defaults back to loud and you finally respond. The behavior is rewarded, you sigh because you know what you just contributed to, again, and the third child continues to be loud.
Happy – but loud.
Yes, in my experience, the third one is the loud one.
My brother is the third one, but he’s quiet. In our family the middle one is loud…
Well I suppose if the “loud” strategy is already taken you have to find a different method! 🙂
Does look incredibly happy though 🙂
In general she is a very happy easy going girl, just loud!
Looks very well adjusted!!
Why thank you! 😛
I think you’re right. My third child is loud, too.
If your house is like mine that have to to *something* to get everyone’s attention. There are much worse things than loud that she could be! 🙂
Great post! 🙂 We have six and they each have such different personalities! Our third one is the polite one and our fourth one now has a stage that he is being very loud…and our girls outnumber the guys as well! 🙂
I love the photo of Granny and Jane.